Alittle update…
I started talking to hot guy. Hot guy messeged me via POF.
He was 39 (alittle older than I like – but what the hell -he was FIT!) he was also over 6 foot tall… And us girls LOVE a tall man right?!!!😜
He’s the guy who I gave my blog address too. He was gorgeous looking, into similar things as me and no kids! Seemed too good to be true.
We spoke numerous times via Pof over the next week and he read my blog. He ripped me abit about things I wrote but also commented that he could maybe be the one who could be the end of my blog!!! 👍
Eventually I asked if we could exchange numbers as everytime I signed into Pof , I would get 20 messeges from men and my inbox was bursting as I was “online”
ALOT! So, he gave me his number, we chatted lots and all was well. The more I knew about this guy the more I liked him. He used to sing in a band and he gave me his band name so I could watch on YouTube.
OMG what a beautiful voice… Had smokey tones to his voice!!! He also played guitar…
…all this good stuff posed the question:
“Why the hell is he on POF?”
So I asked him. His answer was plausible. He had been out of a relationship for 5 months and chatting women up in bars wasn’t his style. Fine 
I was at college earlier this week and was messaging him. He asked what campus I was at as he worked in town and wanted to go for lunch (but I wasn’t attending the city centre campus).
Anyhooo, we kept messaging and regularly he would text me good morning etc
Yesterday the texts stopped In the afternoon, which was weird as we always said goodnight. Today I had heard nothing from him.
I didn’t get it. I liked him. So I did something I’ve never done – I bit the bullet and text first. He replied that he’d been busy and we had abit of a convo going on. I was thinking “why hasn’t he asked me out???”
So again, cos I liked him, I asked him to meet for a drink tomorrow (as he said he was out tomorrow night-as am I).
Long pause…. His iPhone showed that he was typing… Then the typing stopped…
20 minutes later I got a reply saying:
“Right Jemma lemme tell you how it is cus I do believe in being straight. I’ve been chatting to 2 people who have both really got me intrigued. You being one of the 2. The other person kinda got in there first with the hook up for a drink tomorrow offer funnily enough so I’ve said yes so meeting up with you could become a little too interesting. 😳 Xx”
GUTTED. Much!?
And abit arrogant no?
Maybe the other girl hasn’t got children, I know that can be a deal breaker for some men.
Maybe the blog put him off?
Maybe the other girl was hotter?
Anyways, I was polite and said thanks for being straight with me and good luck tomorrow I hope it works out. And I do. He was/is a nice guy!
Just a shame I hadn’t been enough for him to wanna put me first. In the dating world you date your favourite – you don’t have a fucking waiting list.
So I was second best. Again. And that’s one thing I will never allow myself to be again.
Ever.
So back to the fish pond for me 🎣🎣
Mwah, Jemma
@barbiedoll_moi
You weren’t second best, you were TOO GOOD FOR HIM! something I learned in my short time internet dating is that there’s a hell of a lot of time wasters out there. My profile included the line ‘if you don’t want to meet within a week, don’t bother contacting me.’ So many people on POF are just there for the ego boost of a flirt with no date ever materialising. What’s the betting he’s NOT being straight with you? What’s the betting he’s actually in a relationship? Yes, I am cynical I know, but people who are properly up for dating get down to dating very quickly, without all this messaging forever palaver. People mistake that for getting to know someone, or even for being in a relationship. It isn’t either – it’s being held at arm’s length. My advice would be to give them a week and no more than that – it weeds out the time wasters.